Once you have a baby your old schedule goes out the window. Now you have a tiny screaming tyrant ruling the schedule. Your baby decides when you can sleep, eat, and even shower. You’ll find many days where you end up having to poop with your baby on your lap. It’s not perfect, but it’s your life now and for the foreseeable future.
There is some good news, within the first three months you can work on getting your baby on somewhat of a reason a workable schedule if you know how to do it. If you’re nursing, you’ll need to feed your baby on demand, if you are feeding formula you should mostly stick to your doctor’s schedule of how much formula to feed your infant to avoid obesity and other issues.
Set up Your Bedroom as a Mini Nursery
Put your infant in the room with you. There are designed to be placed in the master bedroom so that you don’t have to go far to get your child for feeding. If you choose to nurse those first weeks, this will make everything even easier.
You do not have to wash your nipples before feeding, nor spend time warming the formula. You simply pick up your child and nurse, change them, and put them back into their crib. There are even. Once you have the room set up, you’ll make your nightlife a lot easier.
Wear Your Baby
As long as you’re awake and wanting to do other activities such as a walk or light housekeeping not involving chemicals or hot water, or hot surfaces, you can wear your baby. Studies show that keeps babies a lot calmer and happier even later in life. It will not spoil your baby.
In fact, it will give them, even more, self-confidence as they age that you are always there for them. You can use appropriate slings through toddlerhood which will promote closeness and health in both mom (and dad) and baby. It’s one of the best ways to get your life back and share it with your baby at the same time. Babies are usually quiet and happy inside the sling as long as they’ve also been fed and changed.
Let Your Spouse Help
Many moms complain because their spouse doesn’t take an equal part in child rearing. But, many times this is not because the spouse doesn’t want to, it’s because they don’t want to take away from your experience as a new mom or step on your toes. Also, sometimes moms can be critical of how other people do things.
You’ll need to work on withholding judgment of how your spouse does things. As long as it’s not dangerous or harmful, there should not be a problem letting your spouse do things the way they want to do them. It can be very difficult to let go like that, but it’s an important part of getting your own life back as well as allowing your child to enjoy both parents fully.
Having a baby is a wonderful experience fraught with doubt and insecurities. And yes, your schedule will never be the same again now that you’re a parent. Everything they do now comes first, and that’s not a bad thing. In fact, it can become a wonderful new schedule and a wonderful new life.