In some cases, mamas have a genuine extreme time giving daddies their opportunity with the new child. At that point, they grumble about the father not pulling his weight. It’s a common problem among married couples. Men report performing about 20 hours per week less of household chores than women report doing. Many men admit to doing less, but their reasons for doing less aren’t what women think.
Don’t Make Him Do it Your Way
Many new fathers are already nervous enough. They think that women have more instinct for child-rearing than men, not because it’s totally true, but because society demonstrates this through television shows, commercials and more. Along these lines, unless something is genuinely risky or undesirable, let your better half deal with his kid in his own specific manner. Don’t critique everything he does. Even if the diaper is on backward, praise that he did it, don’t comment that he did it wrong.
If He’s Reluctant to Make Him Do It
Find an excuse that you have to do something or be somewhere and leave him to it. He’ll be fine. He needs to learn just as you’ve had to learn. Ensure that he feels safe to call you or someone else if he has questions, and then don’t treat him like he’s dumb for having a question. You want him to feel safe for asking, just like you do for asking your friends or family.
If You Breastfeed Consider Pumping
Once your milk is established it’s okay to pump and let daddy do at least one feeding per day. He can also take night duty occasionally if you both work, or on nights he doesn’t have to go to work in the morning. One or two feedings each day will help the father bond with the baby in a way that other activities don’t. There is something about feeding your baby that creates a stronger bond.
Don’t Be So Fast on the Draw
When you first hear your baby cry and both of you are home, it’s hard not to jump right up to the sound. But, you should give your husband an opportunity to learn to react to your baby’s cries too. If your husband can react to daytime crying he’ll be that much more likely to react to night time crying.
When you venture back and let your better half do his paternal obligations you will be astonished at the amount he’ll venture up. Imagine if you had the opportunity to just let someone else do it all the time you might also slack off too. Giving your better half the chance to father your kid will pay off now and later because of the more grounded bond that will be produced amongst father and youngster.