Many women struggle terribly after giving birth with the guilt of choosing to work after having a baby, or not to work. Women who have no choice about working or not still can’t escape the guilty feelings. They feel guilty for going to work, or they feel guilty for not contributing to the family finances. Women have so many pressures today when it comes to their work life and family life. Guilt is the biggest emotion many reports to having.
Release the Guilt Accept the Happiness
Regardless if you have to go to work or not you have a beautiful baby counting on you. The best thing you can do is enjoy the time you are together and not allow guilt to interfere with your time together. It doesn’t really matter if you simply want to work and love your career, or if you must work. It doesn’t matter if you’re home and you and your husband have to cut back due to that choice. The important point is that you enjoy the time you have together as a family and don’t allow anything to cloud that.
Make Choices Based on Reality & Fact
When you make choices based on reality and factual information you’ll be less likely to feel bad. If you feel bad for working, sit down and figure out why you really feel bad. Do you have a way to afford to stay home but you still don’t want to? If that’s the case, you’re just letting other people’s judgment cause you to feel bad. Do you have to work because the numbers don’t add up? If that’s the case then you must realize that you have no choice but to do what you’re doing, and your child will understand.
Make Choices Based on What’s Right for Your Family Only
People love to give new parents advice. Your family, friends, distant relatives and strangers will give you advice whether you need it or not. Some people feel very strongly one way or the other about working parents and the roles of women. That’s their business. Your life and what you and your spouse choose are up to you. There are no studies that prove one way or another that working mothers cause any problems with their child’s development.
Guilt is Truly a Wasted Emotion
All guilt is, at its core is the judgment of the self. You don’t judge others for their choices; you know that everyone does the best with what they know at the time. Aren’t’ you doing what you know to be best at the time, or what you must do? Why force so much judgment on yourself? Guilt can erode your bond with your child, your husband, your family, and friends. Guilt can affect how well you do at work too. Let go of judgments and you can let go of the guilt.
Ultimately what matters most is that you embrace your choices, let go of the guilt, and raise your children the best you know how with what you have. Don’t waste one second feeling guilty about a choice you’ve made in regard to working or not working. It’s just not worth it and is a complete waste of emotions. You’ve got so many other things to feel guilty about, like not buying your teenager that new sports car.